I agree, I think at this point sending the bills is just putting this in your face one more day each month. If I could afford (not that it would be comfortable) to forget about the money and walk away I would.
On the envelop thing. I have a sil who was estranged from her ad. She hoped that every "caller i.d. unknown" that showed up was her daughter. When there would be silence on the line she was sure of it. I never could convince her that this was at that time a ploy used by teller marketers, to have the computer dial until it got a "live one" and then transer the call to a tm, hense the silence. I didn't think of that as codie behavior though but it makes some sense now, at least from the standpoint of obsession and denial. Hoping that someone can help me understand a little better, but I thought my sil was being irrational and maybe a little paranoid?