The only way I could stop projecting was to catch myself...I'd even talk to myself out loud (in the car...got lots of strange looks from other drivers, but it worked) I would ask myself just how exactly does all this worry and negative thought change anything? Answer...it doesn't; I simply can not control this. That's what helped me "get" step 1. I couldn't surrender until I proved to myself logically that my thoughts were doing absolutely nothing but making me sick. It took lots of practice (and still does sometimes) to move past the worry, but it happens...in time. Hugs...just keep doing what you are doing and catching yourself when you get into future tripping and little by little it will come together.