Chy, I, myself, appreciate your popping in here. I think its commendable that you are interested in seeing the other side.
Last night, for the first time, I went to my husband's therapy group on "family night." I was the only non-A there. At first I felt a little self-conscious, but they included me in everything, even had me go through the same exercises the As did. It was fascinating. I think we all learned something from listening to each other's situations and perspectives.