Did it used to be that all women were raised to believe that their men would take care of them in all matters?
Why would we have ever swallowed that belief when we always knew that women do the majority (if not all) of the cooking, cleaning, raising of children, organizing and all the small things that make where we live our homes? Did we ever stop to realize that our mothers had "emotional needs" while she waited hand and foot on our fathers?
So, if you want to really think about it that way - we already are independent; we've been taking care of ourselves and others and we have been doing so for a very long time, but are still simply believing what we were raised to believe - that the men would take care of us.
(Apologies to any men out there who are in reversed roles...)
It is our own responsibility to make sure our own emotional needs are met. It all comes down to being there for ourselves before we can be there for others. We've been doing that all along - haven't we ladies?!?!