girl, i am right there with ya! not the finance part, my xabf is completely broke. he can't provide me with any kind of support - financial, emotional, etc. but he is, or WAS, an intelligent man who made good choices at one point. i broke up with him to try and force him to put the heroin down. it still hasn't worked. we have no contact any more. his cell phone is off. he moved to another city (i don't know where he is). he doesn't answer e-mails. and my imagination is quite possibly killing me. i don't have any advice as i am VERY new to all of this but i just wanted you to know you are DEFINITELY not alone. i guess all we can do is try to keep our heads up and pray.