Hello!
This is a symptom of ACOA's. We didn't get enough love as a child and now we are trying to get it by trying to make people love us. We can NEVER do enough to MAKE someone love us.
May I reccomend reading the best book about the codependant subject?
"Codependant no more" by Melanie Beatty.
Also, try finding a 12 step meeting that deals with ACOA.
Yes, you are a good person and deserve love.