On Oprah they had the professor who is dying of pancreatic cancer. Oprah asked him what he wanted his children to know and when he got to his young daughter he said that the best piece of advice that he has ever heard was when she gets to dating age to forget everything the boy says and just watch what he does. I think that is a great piece of advice when dealing with an addict. You are wise to put up strong boundaries and stick to them. Hugs, Marle