hate that he is still struggling with his sobriety - that does make it difficult for the relationship.
My e, s, and h - For me, when the addicts/alcoholics in my life are at the worse - I need to be at my best - which means I need to focus on me, by attending meetings (Al-Anon), staying in contact with recovery friends, working the 12 steps, seeking guidance from my HP and reading recovery literature.
Also setting a boundary with my addicts - so often the addicts will want me to base my decisions on their intentions - this is not healthy for me - For me it is better for me to base my decisions on their ACTIONS - that is what will be in my best interest. And recovery tells me, there is nothing wrong with taking care of me.
Wishing you serenity & joy,
Rita