Greet,
Everything you say makes so much sense to me. You have shed the light that I needed. The hul hoop ananlogy makes perfect sense. The part about what I would say to a friend. Don-with-it told me that she would have wanted her mom to be a friend and handle it that way instead of being a mom. I think you are both right.
She is going to a Halloween party tonight and I am nervous already. I know there will be drinking there. She already told me she doesn't want to drink at all because she doesn't know these people very well and she has to keep her guard up. I hope she does just that.
Thanks Greet............Lo