(((rozied)))
When my son was in jail, I remember him asking me for money and saying how far $40 would go ... I answered "who said anything about $40?" I did write to him regularly and would occasionally put a few dollars on his books, so he could purchase extra toiletries at the commissary. This is what I was comfortable with at the time.
I know this weighs heavily on your mind, but your son is safe and hopefully learning the lessons he needs to make a change in his life. Sending much love and prayers because I know how hard this is