Rashue -
I'm glad that you're going to a meeting. You may also want to check into al-anon. I've always gone to AA meetings and gotten the same message I would have gotten from NA. I just found more meetings available at AA.
You're already making progress, so just keep it up. If you haven't gotten it already, get the book "codependent no more" by Melodie Beattie (sp?). I bought it years ago, unfortunately it took me 'til now to actually work on my codie behaviours.
I'm off to sleep, so have a good day. Get those candles (I LOVE candles!!).
Hugs and prayers!
Amy