Tony,
Welcome! I chose to attend Alanon...for family and friends of alcoholics. I am new to the ACA persuit myself but being raised in an alcoholic home that is part of my story.
What you said about ruining another relationship was interesting. We have a way of picking the wrong people. Or our dysfunctional upbringing makes it very difficult to maintain relationships long term. One or the other or a combination of both.
Anyway, make yourself at home. Cruise the other forums, I am sure you will find your "fit"
Hugs,
JT