QUOTE I feel like I'm living in a grey area in these college years, since the month he was born I started his college fund and committed my parenting to seeing him through his undergraduate degree. Thanks.QUOTE
In my opinion if I had been planning his college that long I would probably be the biggest codie in the world. I would get an apartment right next to the college to be sure he wasn't using (while I was looking that is) I am the mother of a relapsing heroin addict (who is going to the NA convention in MD this weekend) and I still fall backwards into codie mode all the time. I think I have figured that the correct thing to do is just enough to make me feel better, this may not be the absolute thing to do but right now I'm trying to focus on me so only what I'm willing to do is what I do.