Hi all,
Thanks for posting that Babs. Your post gave me cold chills. To think of all the wasted years! Married 19 years, addicted really for all of them. Got progressively
worse ... was hell after about 13. Wasted many years enabling & trying to change him.
I just didn't know any better. Didn't want friends to know how bad it really was when they seemed to have great marriages. I'm so thankful for SR... I've learned
so much here, and it's great to see others who aren't suffering for the 15-20 years like me because they learn about not enabling and taking care of themselves and are able to leave or detach and acquire some happiness. Happiness is few and far between when you're a co-dependent living with an active addict. But there is hope! You've got to seek change.