>Addicts are great manipulators and so are many codies. <
You may be right Elana, I may be codependent and he and I both have extrodinary skills as manipulators. It's something you're taught in the high chair in our family. But in my mind I'm not a codie, I'm a mother.
When did you feel like your children were adults and leave it to them make all of their own decisions and pay all of their own expenses? I feel like I'm living in a grey area in these college years, since the month he was born I started his college fund and committed my parenting to seeing him through his undergraduate degree. Thanks.