SaraUT - I am also new to this process. My husband is addicted to cocaine and alcohol. I wanted to let you know how motivating/comforting your posts and the related replies are to me. Thank you for sharing.
Aside from reading as much as I can here, NarAnon meetings have been extremely helpful in pointing me in the right direction. My attendance has provided me a much needed education about the addiction of my loved one. Most importantly, it has shifted my focus back to ME.
I'll be thinking of you.