I believe I am about to make myself somewhat unpopular.
No one here is Madame Cleo. According to the dirt I've read, not even Madame Cleo is Madame Cleo. We do not know that Bonbon's situation is "just like" cousin Hepzebah's. We have learned by experience with addicts that it is impossible to see into the heart of another human being with certainty. Perhaps it is also beyond our sensory powers to know the real intent of a person we have never met.
By all means, share your experience. Share cousin Hepzebah's experience if it sounds similar. But I can tell from Bonbon's posts that she is an intelligent person able to draw conclusions on her own.
In other words... I am suggesting that the advice is getting a little strong. Anybody here like to be told what to do?
Love,
Smoke