Lolly
So sorry for your pain, and I agree with the replies above. It is so hard to know what is the right thing to do. I often find that when I am torn, I take pause to think through how what I would do could affect ME and affect them, double check my motives, and then often just go with my heart. When my son in in jeopardy, I just make sure he knows that I love him and care, and that the rest is up to him and God.
What would Jesus Do? Rev can answer better, but I believe that Jesus would forgive, and love, and pray.
Hugs