hang in there
You are on the right path.
You've identified the bad situation and are taking steps to get out of it.
Remember the slogan "this too shall pass". Right now you are in it, but soon you will be past it.
Remember to do something good for yourself today. Reward yourself for seeing the problem, taking the steps to get away from it, and using all you've learned to recognize danger signs and that you deserve better. Just look what you are doing! You are not trying to control him, you are just taking steps to control the things you can. Way to go!!!
You recognize that fighting with him won't help. You may feel lousy, but we all do when we realize we've made a bad choice. Or have a potential money issue, no matter what the cause. We fix it and we learn from it. You're already doing both.