Hubby does understand that he was on the curb. I guess he is not sure where he is now. I have been treating him with kindness and support and that hasn't happened consistently for a long time. I pray that God will help him to turn the corner, but who knows. It is hard to say if there is any change, he is quiet and grieving. He is drinking but somewhat moderately. He seems to have a bit more energy for walking the dog and other house chores. Meanwhile I try to stay focused on me. thanks