Marle,
I think you have your mind made up to see her if she does contact you when she gets back. You seem to have a handle on your recovery and I know you will make the descision that is right for you. I have seen my daughter at her worst and at her best. I know that her worst really did pull me down, but I know that her seeing me raised her up. I like to think that her seeing me gave her a few good memories of what it is like to have a good relationship with me and all of the good times that we used to have. Hoping that she would take that back with her and it would benefit her. I too have lowered my expectations but I never gave up my hope that if there is one small thing that would set a spark of her wanting to get well then it is all worth it. Even if it doesn't, at least you can hold her and tell her that you love her and that is something that you both deserve. She will always be your baby, open your arms to her, you are strong enough to handle it.
Mom hugs..............Lo