Waiting for that other shoe to drop is sometimes more anxiety producing than knowing that they are using when they are in active addiction.
Not allowing my boundaries to be put on the back burner just because I knew or know he is clean at the moment is an important part of me not losing my sanity. I don't wait on that other shoe to drop because I know in my head if it did, I will make it. I've kept intact my boundaries that I use when he is in active addiction. Maybe with some substantial clean time, they'll lessen but for now, they stay in place and if he understands why things have to be the way they are, good for him, if not....so sad, to bad.