Hi Morning Glory!
It sounds like you do have a wonderful daughter. It's pretty tough getting started tooting your own horn... but you get used to it... then you get to like it.
For some reason you made me think of a friend of mine who taught college. She said she always had trouble chastising a class of students, because it was never the ones who were messing up who heard the message. It was the good students that took it to heart, thought the teacher was talking about them, and worked that much harder to please.
I can add one other thing to your wothiness list. You are a person who cares about your worth and your social identity. Anybody who's ever had to live with an addict can tell you how precious that quality is.
Love,
Smoke