"I used to get all confused because I was listening to the words that came out of his mouth, but the actions were telling me something entirely different. When I stopped listening to the words and only paying attention to the actions, my confusion ceased."
OHHHH, is this true. Until I found out the "whole story" from others, all I had was my XABF's rosy view of his life. OMG is it different than the truth! The truth is ugly, toxic, criminal. Remember, "The Truth Shall Set You Free!"