I'm actually anti-dependent, if such a thing exists
DITTO!!!
I'll kick your arse at a game of darts,,,he,he,he
I'm an "executive" in a corporate world, who is "different". Ruthless, and determined to acheive the business goals, I maintain my "individuality" in my simple native hippie chick core. I've learned to insist it be accepted, as that is WHO I AM. I have three daughters who I have taught to be reliant and self sufficient, no offense, in a "man's world" and THEY are not codependant!! We girls kick arse in the "real" world.
And I have only had 2 codependant relationships.
In my recovery, it has become clear to me, it was the relationships AFTER the only one that wasn't codependant ended in the death of my husband!!!
Hmmmmmmmm,,,HUGE!! Ya think?!?!?!
I am still very NEW at this realization. Sorting through it, and frankly, tempted to erase it and say something nice like, "take care of you",,,lol. The reason I share, is if it makes just ONE other person, peer into their core and find a REASON they accept these relationships, then I will feel I have given a small portion back.
Peace