What do I say?
My agf just sent me a text message to let me know that one of her work buddies just got fired, so she's going to "hang out w-them for a while" when she gets off in an hour. Every time she's hung out with someone from this job before, it's consisted of lots of cheap beer and pot. After the last time, we had a series of dramatic conversations and I laid it on the line how I feel about her drinking, and she agreed to stop. And I think she actually won't drink tonight, but there's always that chance.
The point.
She's going to call before she goes off into the night. And the conversation on her part may consist of attempts to get me to give her permission to do whatever the heck she wants. I know what I *don't* want to say- but what can I actually say that won't either accidentally come across as "sure, go nuts and get plastered on a weeknight" or a codie passive-aggressive control attempt? She's either going to make this mistake or not. I just don't know how to handle my detachment on the phone.