Hangin,
I know you were speaking to Heather and I don't want to highjack this thread but I just have to tell you that you spoke to my heart. I was feeling really bad today and really understanding everything Heather was feeling. Even though with me it is mother/daughter. No matter the relationship it is still some of the same feelings.
"Admit we are powerless" that is what I need to do but somehow I can't. "letting her figure out her life" I want to, but she makes so many bad decisions or doesn't do anything at all. How does one sit back and watch that? I also know that none of the preaching in the world will change anything so what is wrong with me? Some of the things that I do for her are for my own peace. Sometimes I feel like I am saving myself.
Thanks again for your post.............Lo