welcome to our side.... it takes alot of work to recovery. it does not matter if you are working n.a. or naranon.. with us we have been lied to & disappointed so many ,many times. you are going to have to build her trust up in you & it is not going to happen over nite. you are the one who has to be patient & hang in there.i am proud that you have 18months clean time.one day at a time is how you have gotten there & that is how you both will have to work at your marriage.maybe a little therapy could help you both also.i wish the best for you,your wife & kids.prayers,