HK,
Clear out your PMs, chiquita
And I agree that inner child work is a great thing....provided you're prepared to protect her as much as you're dying to protect this relationship. If you're not -- if you know in your heart that she can never be as important as obsessing over whether this one human male of three billion feels the way you need him to feel about you -- then that kind of work may prove more damaging than helpful....you may want to choose some other way at this thing. And I say that with love.
Definitely would journal about it though. Your ABF and your self (as a sweet, innocent young girl) are trapped in a burning building, which would you save? What does she look like in your mind's eye? What makes her feel joyful and alive and held safe by the world? What is her biggest fear of all? You're a wonderful writer -- write her to life; she may have much to teach you.
Love,
GL
p.s. practice practice practice
