Astro, my heartfelt thanks for your post. And you too denny. In my heart I feel like it would be a waste of time to try to talk to him. And what is funny, is that after reading your posts, it dawned on me....he asked me to buy mouthwash when I shopped last week, and yep, is usually chewing gum when he gets in the car!
A family member is suggesting that I at least try counseling with him. Astro, did that help your family (if you don't mind my asking)?