Is there a possibility that he can have a catheter implanted in his back where he can get pain medication through that. My father-in-law had that done when he had prostate cancer that had spread to his spine and what a difference it made. Other than that sending you some hugs. Honey you really need to take care of you. I have been the too many smokes, not enough sleep, bad food and worrying route and all it did was make me sick and tired. It did not change a thing for my daughter. Hugs, Marle