how do i give him the space, but not lose my mind
Me and my husband have became actively in AA, Alanon. I am having trouble with trying to let go of the control, Some of my life experiences when I was younger was very out of my control. And I turned to control and I tried to control my husbands drinking, by any means possible; guilt, anger, nagging(as I heard I nag very well)lol. Can I please ask of you; "How did you let go of that control of someone elses behaviour and life, and still be wanting your marriage to work out. I love him so much, We are less 1yr marriage but Ryan(lets call him) has been in my life for 20 yrs of a loving friendship. I can't imagine my life without him. How do i give him the space, but not loose my mind that I think he is drinking and I try to control the situation. and in the end of my mind boggling time, he was not drinking, just getting coffee.
Thank you for your wisdom.
Best Regards,
Red Bear