Ok, I want to jump in here....I've tried to set this boundary about not wanting to be with anyone who drinks. It is pretty much understood that the "drinking" doesn't have to be near me around me or anything to do with me. Just don't want a boyfriend who drinks at all.......so he slipped a couple of weeks ago and I withdrew some and got a little distant, then he realized my reactions and conversations with him got different. After talking to my counselor and my sponsor....they are wondering if I'm gonna back it up this time? Well coming from a chronic relapser myself, it took me 20 years to get these 10 I've got now! I know the I cannot be the reason he doesn't drink, it won't work like that, but I guess I gotta give the ultimatum anyways? Keep it up boy and you'll be without me for good?????