This is still a hard thing for me to deal with. As logical as I can be and as much as I learn about addiction, I still have a hard time not taking things personally. I don't react like I used to but heck, I still feel like a victim of the addiction and it does hurt.
The difference now is that I don't hang on to it like I used to. I was so full of this hurt before that I couldn't get past it. It's sort of like a good cry, I take the hurt, stew it around for a bit and then let it go. I also try to imagine that my AD is just another person when she says nasty things and I just shut her off.
It takes time but it does get better to deal with. I don't think it ever really goes away but it gets better and takes less out of you.
