Thank you for this post.
I was just thinking about this yesterday...how we codies like to wear the rose glasses in public and we have no problem acknowledging that we are too generous, too giving etc.
But, Melody Beatty says we are hostile, controlling, manipulative and hard to deal with. But we don't talk about that.
We talk about how much we have sacrificed to the beloved addict. etc.
I had a few posts that showed my dark side, my manipulativeness and controlling impulses and immediately felt it was inappropriate and that I shouldn't have posted this.
So, again, thank you for addressing this.