Secret Mom, search for oxford house and they have a website with their missionstatement and a directory by state. Its been a while but I thought your A was in an Oxford at some point. Caileesnana , I was just kidding about the chauvanist thing. You surely can't offend me. Ive been at the beach for the last five days an haven't had a chance to respond to your apology, which was totally uncalled for. I love your posts and this is a great thread.