((((Graci)))
Given the direction the conversation seems to be going I'd be very tempted to cut him loose to think about his options, his choices and what awaits him should he be discharged.
I bothers me to see you waiting and wishing while he takes you for a ride around the block with his comments. I think its nasty, and inconsiderate to use you in this way.
Its no wonder you can't keep it light hon, he's stepping all over you.
Sadly, there's not much to be "light " about when dealing with this stuff.
JMO...
Tell him you love him, you're rooting for him everyday and you'll talk to him when he's able to work through some of this...himself.
Wishing you the best...I know its hard
((((Hugs))))
Cece