(((((((Wendy)))))))))
I'm really sorry...as i read this i thought this is so unfair to you...You can't be playing pill police, it will kill one or both of you.
I know you are having a hard time grasping this because there is no logic with addiction. If he is taking opiates, whether for pain or not, the disease is in control. You could expect a 2 year old to hear you better than how he can hear through the addiction. As hard as he tries, I think with drugs in his system, there is just no way to escape the insanity. I hope that the doctor visits include a frank discussion of his addiction and the fact that he really can't take opiates. There are many people in the same situation as your husband, and I know that if they really want it, there are ways they can manage pain and get out of addiction. I pray you can find a good doctor who will bring him relief and save your sanity and help your recovery in the process. Sending lots of hugs and many prayers for both of you.