((graci))
Keeping things light and getting that "spark" back can be difficult when your every thought is overshadowed by addiction. My advice would be to truelly talk to myself about my role in the whole thing. Have I truelly "let go" of his addiction. If not, I would work on that aspect of myself. Then, once I was comfortable with "me" in that department, I would be prepared before the next conversation with him on the phone. I would make a list of things to talk about. Something to fill in any blank areas of our conversation. Making the list in advance would give me time to make sure the subjects were light, maybe funny and had nothing to do with his addiction. Talk about you maybe, and what is happening in your life, things that have made you giggle.
Just some thoughts.
B