Originally Posted by
drainedwife 
I cant confront him on either thing i found because of the way he reacts when i do confront him, and it gets me no where.. he will just lie, and lie to me and make something up..
dw,
when I finally realized this very thing, it was the beginning of my recovery. It allowed me to REALLY start detaching from his madness when I had to accept the fact that it just did not matter what I said or did.
If I did all the things he said that I needed to do so he would stop using, he still used, and denied it.
If I didn't do all the things he said I needed to do, he used and blamed me for not 'treating him right'.
One day at a time......still praying for you!
(((hugs)))