What dolly Said.
I am sorry for your pain. I sometimes revert to anger.. real cold anger that is not good for me, when I think of Steve and his cheating.. and he has been gone for months now.
The drugs were enough for me to be done but the cheating does something inside you.. like you aren't good enough or something (not that being good enough for a drug addict should be a goal).
It is just the VIOLATION of being cheated on.
I know all about it now and I have to tell you that knowledge doesn't give you peace.
In your case, proof of his cheating would be adequate grounds for divorce perhaps? It used to be the ONLY grounds in NY.
I never knew who Steve was. Never will. He is a drug addict and he likes his drugs too much.