It took me a year to want to date anyone but I did go for lunch or dinner with friends, and some where guys. I tryed not to compare them to my ex. Why make others suffer for my ex's mistakes. I didn't have to tell any of my lunch dates about my past, I just started fresh and made sure I was ok with what was happening, and if people wanted more...I simply stated what was best for me, and if I really liked them I would say so, and if they really liked me, they would understand...and plus this is an easy way to wead out the jerks that will not be good for you in your life. You do what you think is right for you, and take care.