When my AH lost all the weight and wouldn't eat or sleep I did nothing, I let him take care of him. He wasn't living with me at the time. But when I stoped taking care of him he went down hill fast, the funny part it didn't take to long for him to figure out what to do. If your A gets really bad call 911, let them take care of him, he can refuse treatment if he wants but you will know that you have done all you could. Good luck and welcome