Some of our replies, including mine, have been harsh and seeming unfeeling.....I just wanted to add that I do understand and care.....this is a terrible place for a parent to be and nothing prepares you for it.....our first instinct as parents is to love and protect our children and the concept of not doing that and not looking at only the good we see in them is as foreign to us as anything could possibly be....You came here for support and that is what I offer to you......along with some of the things I have had to learn the hard way while dealing with my son.....so please know that we are not ganging up on you and that the final decision of how you will deal with this situation is yours.....and my thoughts and prayers are with you as you face this hard journey......
Take care and