It sounds as if you have really been thinking about this and have plans for support groups and other actions that will help you gain the strength to do what you need to do. I think that is terrific. Hugs and lots of prayers for all of you.
(Oh and boy I wish I could buy 5 acres with no house for $300,000 in this area...housing costs are amazing! I still can not comprehend how these $700,000 Mcmansions on quarter acres that are basically all that are built can be occuppied...where do these people work? My cousin who is an appraiser says many are unfurnished because all the $$$ is spent on the mortgage)