but the addiction is too strong. i know that it is not what he wants, and he is in denial about how bad it is. he still thinks he can control it..if he thought he couldnt, i think he would get help..but he is in that denial stage and cannot get out....
Addiction is cunning, baffling and powerful. Denial is, too. I think if you change all of the "he" to "I" in the above statement, you'll have an awakening. You didn't cause it, you can't cure it and you can't control it. What you can do is make changes in your own life.
I know what you're going thru. I had to get out, I had to leave. I made a plan, and while I was stashing money away, I went to meetings. LOTS of meetings. I talked to my sponsor. I read and read my Al Anon books. When it was time, I was able to leave. I was stronger, healthier, happier, and whole. You can have that too - if you're willing to work at it.
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