Just, I really needed to hear that today. I am carrying so much hate and resentment toward my exh. I recently decided to call him my ex since I don't want to be married to him anymore and I can't divorce him from the grave. I have divorced him in my mind. Right now I can't forgive him........it's all too fresh. I know I have a long process ahead of myself before that can happen. What you post makes a lot of sense to me. Foirgiveness will set me free not him. I have forgiven my daughter for her drug use and all she has put me through. The only way I can love her is to forgive her. I have never stopped loving her. She has done a lot of wrong things and what I have hated was her behavior......not her. I have always been able to separate the two.
My daughter told me she has forgiven him. Right now I can't.
Thank you for this post....................Lo