Originally Posted by dollydo

Heather,

The truth is, until he loves himself first, stays clean for life, he is not capable of truly loving anyone else. The same applies to you, until you love yourself first, and take care of yourself, you are not capable of truly loving him.

What you are expressing is obsession not love.

Your agenda has been addressed many times, there will be no true healing process until you have no contact with him and work a program for you. There are meetings available, there are therapists who are trained to deal with your issues. It's all available to you, it is up to you to persue these avenues.

I can match you word for word, and, that's all they are: Words, a hollow substitute
for action.

You and only you hold the key to your future, it is in the palm of your hand, open your hand, put the key in the lock, open the locked door and walk through the door, begin putting your words into action.