Originally Posted by
dollydo 
Heather,
The truth is, until he loves himself first, stays clean for life, he is not capable of truly loving anyone else. The same applies to you, until you love yourself first, and take care of yourself, you are not capable of truly loving him.
What you are expressing is obsession not love.
Your agenda has been addressed many times, there will be no true healing process until you have no contact with him and work a program for you.
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Heather , I think the words above are so true. I think that keeping in contact with him is holding you back. I know that for me it is so much easier to detach once I broke off contact with my abf.
My new motto is that "the only time for a woman to have a man in her life is when she doesn't need one".
just my 2 cents.