You're right about the past, that is no place to linger. Our kids are far enough in their addiction that, for now, they are unreachable. Having your cards returned "undeliverable" is like a metaphor for your connection now to Megan. Before When I have tried to reach out to my son via a card or letter w/ the messagede that I care and want to hear from him, didn't even appear to register, he wouldn't even mention it. One day something will get through to them, I have faith.